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Post by bronte73 on Sept 7, 2017 6:50:49 GMT -5
He died about 12:30 and I wasn't there.  I had to work, and Brody had an eye appointment. So, we were on our way back when she texted me that I needed to get up there. But he died 8 minutes later. I literally hit every green light from where I was to the hospital. I don't know that I ever had to stop at an intersection, but I still didn't make it.  But I had been with him the night before until about 1:30 a.m. and I spent most of every day up there with him. I"m trying to let it go. If God had wanted me there, He could have made that happen. Anyway, it was peaceful. My mom said he kind of smiled, breathed out and was gone. To be honest, I'm still a bit in shock. He was at his oncologists a week ago today and they decided not to do the new therapy. I thought we'd have a couple weeks at least - not 6 days! I'm so glad that I made it a priority to spend time with my parents every week. Brock was able to spend a lot of time with them too this past year, since his college is right across the street. I'm happy for my dad, but sad for us. My mom especially is going to have a tough transition. I guess that is the blessing and pain of a good marriage. |
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Post by carrieinwi on Sept 7, 2017 7:12:45 GMT -5
I am so sorry Bronte.
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Post by kidsandpets on Sept 7, 2017 9:18:34 GMT -5
I'm so sorry Bronte...Its such mixed feelings in a way. What a wonderful thing for him. He gets to be with Jesus! But the emptiness and loss is so hard for everyone left here... Continued prayers for all of your family.
Hugs
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Post by joy at home on Sept 7, 2017 15:22:56 GMT -5
Praying for you and family.
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Post by cshoremom on Sept 7, 2017 17:30:12 GMT -5
I am so very sorry for your loss. I know it bothers you that you were not there with him as he died. I will tell you this….. it may not make you feel OK with it, but i pray it may give you some comfort. As a Hospice nurse I witnessed so many times, family members staying at the bedside , never leaving because they wanted to be with their loved one when they passed….Night and day they kept vigil…. and just as they'd leave just for a bit to go eat or use the bathroom , etc, their loved one would pass away…. And they would question WHY?  Was your dad a private man, and was he fairly protective of you? This may be why he passed with only your Mom present… He may have wanted you to be spared the pain … Though I know you would have wanted to be there with him, it may have been what he wanted. Time and time again I would see this "phenomenon" for lack of a better word…. He knew you loved him and you were with him while he was alive . So very sorry. You are in my prayers... |
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Post by Elliefunt - Debbie on Sept 8, 2017 6:19:41 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss. Continued prayers.
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Post by bronte73 on Sept 8, 2017 6:42:51 GMT -5
I am so very sorry for your loss. I know it bothers you that you were not there with him as he died. I will tell you this….. it may not make you feel OK with it, but i pray it may give you some comfort. As a Hospice nurse I witnessed so many times, family members staying at the bedside , never leaving because they wanted to be with their loved one when they passed….Night and day they kept vigil…. and just as they'd leave just for a bit to go eat or use the bathroom , etc, their loved one would pass away…. And they would question WHY? Was your dad a private man, and was he fairly protective of you? This may be why he passed with only your Mom present… He may have wanted you to be spared the pain … Though I know you would have wanted to be there with him, it may have been what he wanted. Time and time again I would see this "phenomenon" for lack of a better word…. He knew you loved him and you were with him while he was alive . So very sorry. You are in my prayers... Thanks, Jodi. I appreciate that. There were some people from church and his pastor there. My dad was pretty private. I think it was more my mom maybe not sharing with me early enough - or maybe not realizing early enough. She did say she didn't want me to get in an accident and that she thought I'd be really upset. It's okay. I'm trying to let it go. It's interesting. I was with him the night before, and I talked to him about a few things. Then I told him he didn't have to worry about my mom. A little while after that, things started to change. |
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Post by lucy on Sept 8, 2017 8:27:49 GMT -5
So sorry (( )) Same thing happend with my sister.....she lives 45 minutes away from the nursing home....and after spending 12+ hour shifts at his bedside, she finally went home to shower, eat, change......and was on her way back when he passed....she was about 3 minutes late.
These things happen.........good to know it's a life time of family that is important.....and the days and weeks spent together
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Post by cshoremom on Sept 8, 2017 19:34:17 GMT -5
I am so very sorry for your loss. I know it bothers you that you were not there with him as he died. I will tell you this….. it may not make you feel OK with it, but i pray it may give you some comfort. As a Hospice nurse I witnessed so many times, family members staying at the bedside , never leaving because they wanted to be with their loved one when they passed….Night and day they kept vigil…. and just as they'd leave just for a bit to go eat or use the bathroom , etc, their loved one would pass away…. And they would question WHY? Was your dad a private man, and was he fairly protective of you? This may be why he passed with only your Mom present… He may have wanted you to be spared the pain … Though I know you would have wanted to be there with him, it may have been what he wanted. Time and time again I would see this "phenomenon" for lack of a better word…. He knew you loved him and you were with him while he was alive . So very sorry. You are in my prayers... Thanks, Jodi. I appreciate that. There were some people from church and his pastor there. My dad was pretty private. I think it was more my mom maybe not sharing with me early enough - or maybe not realizing early enough. She did say she didn't want me to get in an accident and that she thought I'd be really upset. It's okay. I'm trying to let it go. It's interesting. I was with him the night before, and I talked to him about a few things. Then I told him he didn't have to worry about my mom. A little while after that, things started to change. You gave him the greatest gift of peace by telling him that. |
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Post by kelly12 on Sept 10, 2017 14:12:20 GMT -5
Oh,I am so sorry,Bronte.(((((HUGS))))
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Post by Kim on Sept 13, 2017 13:26:53 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss, Bronte. Prayers!
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Post by Januinely~me on Sept 28, 2017 22:22:40 GMT -5
Praying for you and your family! (((hug)))
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I had to work, and Brody had an eye appointment. So, we were on our way back when she texted me that I needed to get up there. But he died 8 minutes later. I literally hit every green light from where I was to the hospital. I don't know that I ever had to stop at an intersection, but I still didn't make it. 
