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Post by ericanaysha on Jan 24, 2015 18:15:11 GMT -5
Today I took the three kiddos to Kroger. While I was standing at the register getting ready to pay and I noticed N is back by the candy blocking the checkout lane. I look up to tell her to move out of the people's way and notice she's trying to pocket a pack of gum. I said get up here and she put the gum back.
I'm kind of at a loss at to what the consequence should be since she's 11.5yrs old. She's lost her phone and I talked to her about it. I'm still kind of in shock that I caught her doing it. I know kids make mistakes, but still. UGH.
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Post by Madrede3 on Jan 24, 2015 19:39:36 GMT -5
A letter to the people she would have stolen from would be my choice.
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Post by 2lplvr on Jan 24, 2015 20:02:59 GMT -5
Life lesson on temptation, the power of choices and consequences, a pack of gum and some grace. Be the balance not the judgment. Remind her she is loved but you won't stand by and let her make choices that are self-destructive. Mama, it does not get easier  |
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Post by rebeccca01 on Jan 24, 2015 20:23:00 GMT -5
Erica, that happened to me. I mean ME, not my kids.  I must have been just about that age and we were at the store, my mom, dad and little brother. I pocketed some breath spray,  and took it out of the store. I got caught by store security. My mom was so embarrassed and (quietly) upset. The security guy had me write something about not doing it again, and told me he wouldn't report me to the police. yikes Anyway, something that made a big impression on me was that my mom started crying on the way home and told me that she was so sorry that I felt I had to steal something. (We didn't have a lot of money. And it was breath spray.) That empathy/sorrow made a bigger impression on me than anything else. Since the store wasn't involved in your incident, maybe you could express empathy/sorrow/understanding/disappointment along with whatever punishment you decide on. Help her to understand that she made a wrong choice, rather than making her feel that she is a failure (morally. spiritually or otherwise). < I'm sure you wouldn't do that anyway. Just some thoughts.  |
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Post by Laney on Jan 24, 2015 22:56:19 GMT -5
Life lesson on temptation, the power of choices and consequences, a pack of gum and some grace. Be the balance not the judgment. Remind her she is loved but you won't stand by and let her make choices that are self-destructive. Mama, it does not get easier I really like Tlp's approach. I've not dealt with this with an older child (it has happened one time each with my 3 younger kids about the oldest age that it happened was 8). |
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Post by ericanaysha on Jan 25, 2015 13:50:55 GMT -5
Thanks everyone!
She was remorseful when I talked to her. B also had a chat with her when he got home.
That was my prayer Tulip, let me show grace but also that she understood the gravity of what she was about to do.
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